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3 Reasons You Struggle to Keep Friends
An introverts (and neurodivergents) guide to understanding the root cause of having no friends.
Are you an adult who has no friends? Or a recent graduate who’s waiting on one of the thousands of applications you sent out to get back to you and realizing that you spent your college years with a one-track mind and no space for socializing?
Well, me too.
Let me tell you something — Google is useless in this situation. When questioning the reason it’s difficult to keep friends as an adult, all Google told me were things that made me feel even worse about my utter loneliness: You have no friends due to being anxious, needy, overbearing, having a fear of vulnerability. And while some of those things are true, they don’t tell me why I have no friends. They tell me what I must overcome.
So, I am here to try and help my fellow neurodivergents out there who feel like they’re drowning in waters everyone else is wading in. It might seem hard, but it’s not impossible.
Here are three reasons for your friendless state.